Lessons of a Community Builder – Part 2


I am so grateful and blessed to have been given the opportunity to be associated with Orrin Woodward and the rest of the Policy Council. The information that they have developed regarding building compensated communities and helping people live the life they’ve always wanted through LIFE is world-class. I hope you find these lessons helpful.

Lessons of a Compensated Community Builder – Part 2:

Grace Over Law: The melancholy part of my personality had a tough time with this one. Let me explain through an example. I had an individual that was relatively new to the community and had incredible potential to become a great leader. He was listening to CD’s, reading books, associating on a regular basis, but was a little hesitant to make phone calls because of fear. Over time, he finally mustered the courage to make a phone call. The phone call was a “no”, but this gentleman was extremely excited about his phone call and couldn’t wait to call me and tell me about it. He explained to me what he did and said and was really fired up.

Now for the moment I wish I could take back…instead of congratulating him on his personal victory of overcoming fear and making the phone call, I chose to concentrate on the fact that it was a “no” and focused the next ten minutes on correcting him on everything he did wrong according to the “LIFE Team Builder’s Textbook”. Over the course of the next 3-4 weeks, he stopped listening to CD’s, stopped reading, stopped associating and drifted away forever. Even after all these years it still weighs heavy on my heart, because I am convinced that if I would have just congratulated him on his courage and be excited with him and for him regardless of the result of the phone call, he would still be around today. Remember, being excited and congratulating on someone’s personal victory (regardless of the end result) is way more important than correcting or condemning.

Relationship Over Task: This principle was tough for the choleric part of my personality. When I take time away from my family to build communities, I want to fill my schedule and maximize my results…which for a choleric means I’m on a mission with tunnel vision…get out of my way. The problem with being on a mission with tunnel vision is that the people who don’t get out-of-the-way get run over. Now here’s the balancing act regarding this principle…develop that “art” of having a specific intent with people while leading with relationship. Most people are either all task or all relationship, but the “art” of this principle is to find the balance between the two. The people who I know who have developed this balance are called Policy Council members and Co-Founder’s of LIFE. I recommend getting and listening to the “How to Build Relationships Pack”.

Get it Together, Together: Regardless of whether you’re married or not, this principle is very important when building communities. If you’re single, I am sure that you will be working with people who are married and it will be beneficial for you to know this information. Besides, I am guessing that a good percentage of you will be married someday (impress your future spouse with what a good “catch” you are by mastering this early). If you’re married, it is important to not just be a good example to other couples in your community, but to allow yourself to be blessed by developing the marriage that God intended for you. I recommend listening to the “Marriage Pack” and reading “The Five Love Languages” and “Love and Respect”. Ladies, you can ignore the next sentence. For the guys only…don’t just listen and read…implement…it’s your responsibility to improve your marriage!

Part 3 of this article coming soon.

God bless and have a great weekend!

Eric C. Blomdahl

10 responses to this post.

  1. Posted by Steve Brooks on May 11, 2012 at 7:45 am

    What a great post.
    Thanks for your example.

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  2. Those are some great lessons that anyone can apply in any relationship…whether building communities or not. Thanks for a great post!

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  3. Posted by Sherry Pries on May 11, 2012 at 9:07 am

    Thanks so much, Eric. This is exactly where I struggle. Having your examples, knowing you’ve grown thru them- I’ve seen it, clarifies the “relationships over tasks” so much. Have read, am implementing & will continue thanks to the leadership of you & Jenn.

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  4. Posted by Carole Eldredge on May 12, 2012 at 12:46 am

    Hi Eric (& Jenn)
    Wow! Your words have ministered to me in a personal way these past 2 weeks. Thanks for sharing your stories. I’m so thankful for you & Jenn. Your self-less service does not go unnoticed.

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  5. Thanks for sharing Eric … was fantastic and the best part … guys only!!! You take the responsibility. We hear it time and time again and it is often better to be reminded than instructed.. “It may not be our fault but it is our responsibility to solve marrriage issues. We need to take the crazyness cycle head on . So many lessons learned and soo many more to go thanks for Leading by example not just in the marriage aspect but LIFE in general!

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